Thank you to everyone who participated in my social media poll, I'll still write on staying power, but it was pretty clear you guys wanted to first see a post on self-accountability. When I thought of that phrase, self-accountability, the infamous video from Cycle 4 of America's Next Top Model was the first thing that came to mind. The line where Tyra says "Take responsibility for yourself, because no one is going to take responsibility for you" summarizes everything I could say in this blog post.
If you haven't already, watch the scene I'm referring to (above) and this time imagine Tiffany as yourself and Tyra as...yourself. I wanted to include the extended version because Tiffany's judging process leading up to Tyra reading her for filth is actually super important to note in this conversation about self-accountability and self-responsibility. I'm going to break down the three most important things I recognized in the video to help explain this topic as best as I can. Before we get into it though, take a moment to read this quote from William H. Murray:
As you all may know, I celebrated my second blogiversary this past Saturday. I hoped to do something cute and fun on the blog earlier but y'all know I like to throw out my plans last minute and go for a signature "Kési J.R. Felton Reflection Post."
I haven't really given myself the opportunity to reflect on 2017, as I still have a week of finals and other responsibilities to tie up this semester's (very) loose ends. 2017 wasn't a terrible year, I definitely had a lot of amazing moments, but I wouldn't say there was any one event to mark as "the highlight of 2017."
Last week, I watched a sermon by Sarah Jakes Roberts, "Boundaries," in which she discussed the concept of worshiping while weary (I encourage you to watch the whole thing, but the particular part I'll be talking about starts at around 13:25).
"Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might; for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is no work, no knowledge, no wisdom." Ecclesiastes 9:10.
I have been trying to find the best way to write out something that has been on my heart for the past month or so. Trying to write a blog post has been almost impossible but this is a topic I feel strongly about and want to try to articulate, not only for myself but for anyone who may need to hear this.
A few weeks ago I wrote a post on tips to accomplish your "it"-- the goal that you're currently working towards. Since then, I've been thinking about the one thing that is even more important than that-- finding your "why", aka your purpose, your reason for being, the thing that drives your decisions, the thing that makes you excited to get up every morning and keep pushing.
After reading several articles about JAY-Z's 4:44 and revisiting my blog post on Lemonade, I want to talk about the idea of vulnerability as an art form. As a listener, I could definitely feel a difference between Beyoncé and Lemonade, Magna Carta and 4:44. The subject matter can be felt in a way that makes you feel as though you experienced it yourself. I am confident that that's what makes good art good and good artists great-- their ability to get an audience to truly empathize with their work. I respect Beyoncé and JAY because of their concerted effort to keep us out of their marriage and give us a glimpse of their lives only with concert visuals, music videos, or Instagram posts that show only Beyoncé can make Flipigrams artistic.
However, even when it seemed like they began to lose their grasp over their concealed public image, they undoubtedly proved us wrong by releasing two of what critics, respectively, are calling their best projects to date. Both 4:44 and Lemonade exemplify the power and poetry that results from owning your truth and making the effort to heal.